“I can’t help what I think.”
Really? I used to believe that too. But it’s simply not true.
You can control your thoughts –and you should. Your thoughts press your emotional buttons; your emotions pull the trigger on a physiological response; moodiness washes over you —and now it affects your relationships.
Most people don’t stop and think about what they’re thinking. Awareness of thought takes practice. Instead of letting your thoughts run wild –and then react to them, stop, evaluate your thoughts and then change them.
Relationships suffer when you live inside your head rather than in the moment. Moodiness or distracted interactions are never good. It’s not fair to those around you. You can’t afford to let this happen to you, or to them.
Life is filled with choices and this is another one. Something happens—a nasty comment from someone, something unfair or a more serious situation. Suddenly your thoughts are high-jacked and it’s all you think about. You don’t know how to stop.
Take action: The conflict in your mind can only hold you hostage if you receive those thoughts. Protect yourself. Reject them. Make a conscious decision to stop thinking about this. Choose to think about something else. I’m not saying don’t deal with your problems, that’s not what this is about. This is about taking control of what goes on inside your head.
You can do this. When you have a thought come into your mind that drags you back to that dark place, stop it right there. Take control. Decide that you are not going to think about it. Push it out and replace it. Now fill that space with a new thought about something good. If it sounds silly, I can assure you it isn’t. I can tell you from personal experience. This works.
I used to work in a call center for a national cell phone company. It was a great job –loved it! But, customer service can be, well—challenging. One day, a customer said some really nasty things to me and it stayed with me. The words replayed in my mind, over and over again. But that wasn’t the real problem.
Here’s the real problem –I forgot that I had the power to change my own mind. After a restless night, it dawned on me that I could capture and extinguish these toxic thoughts running figure-eights in my head.
- Realize that you can decide and control what you think about.
- Make a conscious decision to change your thoughts to something positive and good.
- The moment your mind wanders back to that negative place, say no you don’t. Take charge again.
- It takes practice.If you’re dealing with a difficult situation, in the beginning, you might need to do this every 5 seconds or 5 minutes.
- Whatever it takes –do it.
You can control of what goes on in your head. Don’t be a victim of your thoughts. You get to decide what’s in your own head. Decide to think about the good things in your life and leave no room for negative hurtful thoughts.
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Sherry Van Dolder